I had no input as to how big this shower has become, and being asked -- no, told -- to pay for it strikes me as inappropriate ...

One bridesmaid says she didn't have any input on the shower's size and scope, why should she have to help fund it?

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I’m a community volunteer who participates in and has created community organizations to do a variety of projects -- arts, history, service, political advocacy and so forth.

DEAR MISS MANNERS: I have twice invited a friend to parties after asking if the dates were open for her, and she accepted each time. About a week before each party, she said that she was going to ...