My husband thinks husbands and wives shouldn’t travel separately unless absolutely necessary, that solo trips just open the door for all kinds of issues such as infidelity. (He’s speaking from personal experience.

According to this letter writer’s husband, all solo trips — even for work — open the door to infidelity. Dear Eric: My husband thinks husbands and wives shouldn’t travel separately unless absolutely necessary,

In today's Asking Eric column, R. Eric Thomas responds to someone who is bothered that their husband doesn't allow them to go on vacations with friends.

"My husband thinks husbands and wives shouldn’t travel separately unless absolutely necessary, that solo trips just open the door for all kinds of issues such as infidelity."

This angers my husband immensely. He tells me “I’m crazy” and that I need to “pull up my big girl panties.” He’s also called me some vile names which I can’t repeat here. I know it’s irrational and I can’t understand why it is happening.

My husband and I dated long distance for a year before we married. During this time, he told me he had post-SSRI syndrome. After stopping the medication, he could still “perform” but no longer desires sex.

This issue has become such a big problem that my husband has actually hinted that we separate as “we’re on completely different pages.” I’ve suggested counseling, which he won’t consider. I don’t know what else to do to save our marriage.